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Drinking Coffee Alone

New Word for the day:  Sucky  adverb.  Slang  suh’kee.  Defining a situation or action as not good

I have come to the conclusion that, in order to make a relationship work, you cannot drink your coffee alone.  Sure, there are other reasons why it might not survive, get cut short, but for it to work, you have to have company when you have a cup of coffee.  At least once a day.

Not that both of you have to be drinking coffee, (which is probably best), but better is at least sitting together, close if possible, bodies touching is the ultimate, and each of you drinking a cup of coffee.  Tea or hot chocolate, especially if it has marshmallows, would suffice.  But one of you needs coffee.

Okay, we all can find a busted connection; sometimes you have to have your coffee alone. Make it quiet, pensive time, a moment where you can reflect, indulge in thoughts. But it’s a time that should be limited as much as inevitability allows. If you are doing it more than that, you have relationship issues, or, like me right now, no relationship at all. A sucky place to be.

Think about people you know who are still together.  What do they have in common?  When I run that through my memory storage, every one of the people I know who are no longer together did not have daily coffee together. The ones who did, or do, have their coffee time. My own experiences are evidence as well.  Neither marriage survived.  And in both relationships, we never shared java interludes.  (Yeah, there are exceptions.  But I’m talking about a general rule here.)

Formula:  What do you need, as a coffee drinker, to make a relationship work?

1.        Coffee, of course.  Plain, latte, au lait, expresso,  Cream or a substitute, sugar or sweetener, Needs to be hot.  This is not about cooling off with a cold, vogue drink on a hot day.  This is about sitting down with a hot drink.  No iced lattes, no ice tea, no yoohoo.

2.       If you don’t drink coffee, then hot tea (herb tea will do), hot chocolate.  Marshmallows in the hot chocolate will definitely enhance your experience but they are not necessary.

3.      A place to sit, side by side.  Across from each other is okay if the table is not too wide, but it will not assure success as effectively as side by side.

4.     A moment in the day when you can both sit. When is not important.  You don’t have to talk.  Discussion can be internal, or telepathic.  Sense what the other might be thinking, hoping, planning.  This doesn’t mean you have to verbalize. just let the mind go where it needs to for the moment.

The only disclaimer to extol is, if caffeine keeps you up, make this earlier in the day. (this is a no duh)

So, think about it.  Is your relationship strained?  Does it have more ups and downs than an elevator.  Or is it down more often, like a yoyo in the hands of a novice, that has to be wound back up by hand?   Do you have to pole vault over mouse turds to keep things sane?

Easy solution.  Sit down and have a cup of coffee with your partner, lover, friend.  Once a day.  Every day.  For a lifetime.